Realization
December 11, 2017 Uncategorized 6 comments jahlberg18
It was 5th grade when all the schools in the district combined. That was the year when I met all the people I now call my “friends”, though some don’t even deserve that title. 5th grade was a lonely year because my best friend had moved up north because her parents had just got divorced. I learned how to transition from a small school, to a bigger school quite quickly once I forced myself out of my shell. I made friends that I thought I could trust throughout the years, ones I may not have hung out with, but I told a lot of stuff to. It was the same throughout middle school each year, nothing really changed in a bad or good way. Then high school rolled around, and it was the beginning of a nightmare.
Freshman year was quite the hassle trying to get everything elaborated and settled in. It stressed out most of us, if not all of us. That took a turn on a lot of people and showed who they really are. I soon realized how toxic many were. Though, I continued to hang around them, which was a bad mistake.
I kept telling people things that I should’ve just kept to myself because it would always get twisted out of proportion. Hearing the new drama, hearing gossip, and being filled in on what just happened was what a lot of people fed on.
Junior and so far the beginning of senior year many individuals have shocked me by doing things that I didn’t think would happen. “Friends” that I thought I could count on started turning heads. It was a rude awaking that I really didn’t know the people I thought I did. By keeping them around in my life it made me constantly down and sluggish. Year by year people changed, some for the better and others for the worst. As time went on I started losing connection with some of my ‘friends’ because of the choices they made. I didn’t want to involve myself in situations that I didn’t want to be in.
Now it is September 19, 2017 and I finally have came to a conclusion to keep my head up and move on from the ones who are negative. Honestly I wish I never got myself involved to begin with, but I did and I learned from it.
If someone acts like a friend but doesn’t take into consideration your feelings or just belittles you they are toxic. Though now it is my senior year and I have found amazing friends that I love. I knew the ones I once hung around with were not worthy of my friendship. It was something that I should’ve acted upon instead of dwelling on.. Now that I see my life changing positively from this experience, I know to remove everyone who will put me down.
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6 Comments
Hmm, I do find it interesting how you had to deal with toxic friends; I do want to know, how on earth did you deal with them? Did you ever confront them? Did you ever tell them how you feel?
I feel this is a very good post. As I have seen many horrible things “friends” do to each other and it makes high school a lot harder than it needs to be when you feel you can not trust anyone and you feel alone. It is very hard to be alone in such a stressful time of your life and it is important for people to let toxic people go! Great job!
I really love this post. It perfectly explains highschool from a really personal stand point. I think I can personally relate to this, however through all the bad that happens I liked how you included how things got better. Also, you didn’t just focus on the bad parts, you included positive things as well.
I really liked how you wrote how people change and become better or worse. What are some ways you knew your friendships were turning toxic? Do you have any advice for people who may be dealing with this?
I love how you compared high school to a “nightmare”, I believe many people feel very similarly and that the comparison encompasses those feelings perfectly. Also, I really like how you told your complete story that showed the good as well as the bad and how you spoke of all that you learned. Your theme of toxicity of so called “friends” really brings out your message and adds dimension to your story.
I really liked this post! I think it is very relatable to most high schoolers. Not everyone has the same high school experience but the majority of them all have gone through losing a friend or two due to drama and bad choices. It’s really cool to see how you learned from everything you went through and are now trying to stay positive.