Be a Nobody

Ahhhh high school. The best four years of your life, as your parents would say. Having boyfriends, going to footballs games, prom and everything in between. In middle school you just can’t wait to get out and become a high schooler. You just can’t wait to go to parties and have a license with a car. There are so many things that you just can’t wait for in high school that doesn’t happen at any other time in your previous schooling years. Sorry to burst your bubble, but high school is nothing like the movies. You don’t wake up, put a dress and heels on everyday with your hair perfectly curled and makeup on. That’s just not something that happens. Most days you’ll walk into school wearing yesterday’s mascara, looking like you haven’t showered since the last full moon. It happens. You thought at lunch people would just spontaneously break into a song and dance routine, haha funny so did I, and I was wrong. The best way to survive high school is to be a nobody.

Stay away. Stay away from drama. Stay away from it like it is the next viral plague because it is the plague that never goes away. Try your very best to keep out of it. It’s going to happen, people are going to spread rumors like butter on a 98 degree day in August. Conversations between mouths and ears get misinterpreted every second of the day but try to stay away. Don’t listen to what people say. Let it go in one ear and out the other because in the next 2 days it won’t matter. Just don’t get caught up in it because at the end of the day just remember who you are. You are a nobody and also remember what you are in. You are in high school and nothing matters in high school.

Besides staying away from unwanted plagues, don’t think you’re top of the food chain. Know your place in the school. Seniors worked hard for 4 years to be at the top of the food chain. They worked hard to be the big dogs so don’t take that away from them. You will have your turn in 4 years so let them have theirs. This was a hard concept for me to grasp ahold to. Coming from middle school, I was fairly decent at soccer, I was an aggressive hockey player and archery really started to become more and more prominent in my life. I thought I was a “star”. I was a good student never getting below a 93 in any class. Reality hit when I entered high school. Classes got harder, sports got more competitive and now I was going to school with adults, legit 18 year olds. Life changed and if someone would have just told me to stay away and let the big dogs have their time life would have been so much easier, because at the end of the day you’re still a freshman and a nobody.

In the next 30 years people won’t remember who was the best jock in your class or who was the prettiest. I mean, you will reminisce and think back on those people, but nobody ever actually remembers what those people looked like back then. People remember how you made them feel. Be nice. Be kind. Be respectful. It’s not that hard to be a decent human being to everyone. You don’t need to try and make a name for yourself because welcome to small schools, everyone already knows who your whole family is, even your mom’s-cousin’s-ex-husbands-step-son. Welcome to living in a small town. You don’t need to try to make yourself seem like someone you’re not. Stop trying so hard to be something you’re not. It can be easy to lose sight of your true self when everything around you changes with a blink of an eye. Be yourself and never let anyone change that. Be happy that you’re a nobody.

Lastly, be proud of who you are. Be proud of the person you are and who you are becoming. If you’re not happy with who you are, change that. You’re not perfect. No one is. You’re going to make mistakes. Many of them. Learn from those then laugh at them. At the end of the day they’re all just memories that will one day be long gone in the rear view mirror. In life there is no redos. Do things that you want to do. Be adventurous. Be outgoing. Do what makes you the best you. Be your own ray of sunshine, gleam so bright that it radiates onto others. Do everything because everything happens for a reason. All these things that life throws at you happens for a reason. Learn to dance in the rain and sing like no one is listening. Do all these things then one day, just maybe one day, you’ll be a somebody.

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