Sibings

Before my parents had me or my older brother they talked about how they planned to parent. As I have gotten older I have noticed The things they did and how it shaped us both. One of the most important things to them when raising us was making sure we were friends. Neither of my parents had close relationships with their siblings and that’s something they regretted as they got older. So while they raised us they made sure to not put me and my brother against each other.  They wanted us to have a good relationship because they know that when my parents are gone it will just be me and him.

My brother and I have done stuff for each other since we were little. I would do chores that he forgot to do or move his car for him so he wouldn’t get in trouble. I would cut his hair for him and play games with him when he needed some company. He would drive me and my friends places and help me with my homework. He would also calm my parents down when they were upset at me so I wouldn’t get into as much trouble. An example of this happened a few weeks ago.

My dad has a house in Lisbon that he is flipping to resell and sometimes during the day he asks me or my brother to order food for him. On this particular day my dad called me and asked me to order him lunch from Domino’s. I told him I would order and pay online. He said ok and hung up. So I ordered it online but I didn’t have a card on me so I selected pay in store. I didn’t think it would be a big deal. I assumed he would just realize when he got asked to pay that I didn’t pay online. Boy, was I wrong. He got to the store and was ready to just grab it and leave. But the cashier told him it hadn’t been paid for yet. My dad insisted that it had already been paid for and started arguing with the worker. After arguing with him for a while my dad called my phone, but my phone never received the call. So he called my brother very angrily and told him to put me on the phone right away. When I got on the phone I told my dad that I didn’t have a card on me when I ordered so I figured he could just pay online. This was not what he wanted to hear. He aggressively hung up the phone and I sat there dreading when he would walk through those doors. I knew it was not going to be a pretty scene. When he got home he immediately came into the office and I got an ear full. The thing he was the most mad about was that I didn’t answer my phone. So I tried to tell him my phone didn’t receive any calls from him and I even showed him my call history and he said “I don’t care about your excuses. When I call you answer!” At this point I knew nothing I could say would make him realize that I had no control over it. So I just let him go. He went into the kitchen where my poor brother was and yelled at him for taking too long to answer his phone. Even though he was on the phone with someone else and hung up on them to answer my dad’s call. My brother has a better way of talking sense into him than I do, so he was able to calm him down. Now we can laugh about the whole situation and I didn’t get into trouble thanks to my brother.

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