Understanding Takes Time

When I was younger, I found it difficult to find patience for my brothers, arguing often and being on each other’s nerves for simple issues. What I did not realize, was that soon I was to have an experience that would change the patience I have for my brother forever. I would have difficulty with him, give him some patience, and would find success in it; ultimately finding patience for others, and the value of having it. Now that some time has passed, at the very least I can see their perspective, and accommodate for them in their difficult times.

For instance, one time my twin brother was having an awful day, and he was urging everyone in the house to get out of his way. He was trying to find something to eat, and in frustration wanted everyone to leave the kitchen. My mother, who was very aggravated, argued with him before leaving and I left before that. When I walked away, it felt sickening and denigrating to let my brother treat me like less, and let him get away with it. Especially when I knew he was blatantly wrong, and selfish about it. But I knew when my brother said “Get the Hell out of here” that he was too ill-tempered to talk to. Later, using patience as my shield once my brother had calmed down, I asked him what was bothering him. He explained that a conflict that he had with a close friend, and that had put him in a bad mood. The aftermath of my patience was that I was able to show sympathy for my brother, and was able to take his attention off what was bothering him. I was able to cheer him up.

From a first glance, one could not understand why he approached me with frustration and aggression. Although, with a bit of time, I was able to approach him once he was calm, and get to the bottom of what was bothering him. Helping others like my brother in their difficult times, helped me realize it takes time to learn the importance of patience.

“Clocks for Den” by robstephaustralia is licensed under CC BY 2.0