Trust

I do think that kids should have the same privacy as adults as long as it’s earned. I grew up with non-strict parents. They never wanted to see my phone, or go through my personal life. They raised me to know what choices were good and what choices were bad. They never had to worry about me going out and doing drugs or partying because I was never interested. Due to that I had a pretty go relationship with my parents in that aspect. We respected boundaries, and knew what was crossing them or not. But I also never gave my parents a reason to not trust me.

I’ve seen parents be extremely strict, follow their kids every move, tracking their phone and everything on it, always asking nosey questions, and I’ve seen parents completely trust their children and not question their every move. Every time I’ve seen that situation the child always finds some way to go behind their parents back. Strict parents create sneaky children. Being able to trust your child and build that relationship is extremely important. If the child feels like there is no trust or relationship, they will do everything their parents tell them not to do. My parents gave me that trust and relationship and it helped me with honesty. I’ve never lied to my parents about a relationship or what I was going out to do because we built that trust. For example, sleepovers at guys house is obviously a big no no from a lot of parents. I started dating my boyfriend in freshman year so all through that year I worked on building that trust with my parents. Coming home on time, being honest about where I was. By sophomore year I had building so much trust with my parents, they allowed me to spend the night on new years eve. I needed that trust and relationship with my parents. I worked for many years to create that trust and I finally got it. My friend has extremely strict parents, watch her each and every move. She eventually got tired of it and started sneaking around behind their back and lying to them. Perfect example of how strict parents create sneaky children.

Now like I said in the beginning, I think children should have the same privacy as adults as long as it’s earned. If a child breaks their parents’ trust I understand why the parents would give the child less privacy. But if a child has done nothing but be honest and work with their parents than I don’t see why the child shouldn’t be allowed to have that privacy.

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