Set Yourself Up for Failure

Failure is a part of everyone’s lives and is commonly avoided. Now I feel it may be a cliche saying “it takes a fail to succeed” but, how many people are actually putting this ideology into practice? It can be said that society nowadays are settled with failing but there’s a level of tolerance that needs to pertain in order to seek their goals. Throw two people in the ring and the one who gets up after falling wins every time. Take risks, get worried, make things happen and the task at hand will be achieved if that’s kept in mind. I have grown up in fear of failing and it made succeeding difficult to achieve. As I continue in life I am continuously chasing this failure, not cause I like to fail but because it makes me better and continues my path closer to my success. The conflict arose when I was not able to handle any sort of emotional let down or insignificance. It was not easy to always be capable of chasing failure and it took help. My brother and my mom helped me build an ideology of right and wrong. They both made me realize the difference between right and wrong which helped me aspire to become a better person.

I had grown up with this idea of large-scale success for myself. When I was in second grade I wanted to be a scientist and had that in mind. When I got into seventh grade I saw a passion for business and this idea of self-employment. This has carried to the present day for me and I have maintained this passion for business. I had all these aspirations but I had not ability to handle anything. It was like everything that happened to me I would lose my mind and pout. This was sad because I was such a pessimist and was constantly giving up. With the effect being problems with my family, they would take me to do really fun activities and I would always manage to find the bad in it and it made life hard for me. It was like I was trying to find hay in a needle stack, contrary to a needle in a haystack, almost not letting anything make me happy. My mother had a lot of concern for me “I don’t know what to do, he is always miserable” I would hear her say. When I was in middle school she still saw this in me, I was negative and always miserable and she would talk to the school to help me. The reality was that I didn’t need help I needed to accept failure.

My mother had a large impact on how I felt about myself but upon being a single mom raising two children she wasn’t always there to help me be stronger mentally. Also, I had my brother, he thinks he was a bad role model because he did not do well in school but he shaped me into the man I am today “I just do not like doing school” he would say. I might’ve given him crap for this and told him he needed to do his school, but his retort was my attitude being bad which, made me realize the value of respecting others. I always looked up to the vibes he gave off and how he always makes people happy. He was anything I could have asked from a father. He helped me distinguish the idea of right and wrong and always made me feel supported. I saw him and it inspired me to grow my mindset. Always having a great attitude and he was so compassionate of others saying things like and it made me want to inquire the same attributes. He would always check in on my family and I “Are you guys doing okay?” He would ask on a frequent basis.

All of this failure isn’t towards one particular thing, it applies to all aspects of life. I grew up with my mindset which was my failure but I managed bounced back, I was put in a position where I needed to accept responsibility and realize that my quality of life is much worse due to mentality. As I began fixing my mentality, I started to value smaller things in life and see the glass half full with the inspiration of my mom and my brother. I realized that I need to maintain optimism in order to find the success in not only quality of life but also my career. Now I am always living with high hopes and I am always able to see positive ways out.

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