In the TED talk “Why Children of Immigrants Experience Guilt,” Sahaj tells us that there are different types of guilt and that guilt doesn’t have to be a bad thing. In the interview, she tells us that some children can feel guilt because their parents who are immigrants had sacrificed so much to get where they are today. She also tells the audience that some children feel like they have to act a certain way to fit into the areas or country they live in. She wants to remind us that our parents are doing all they can for us and that we have to have self-compassion. A quote that shows that it can feel hard to fit in talking about guilt is, “It kind of encourages us to distrust our own needs and wants, especially if they differ from the people around us and our immigrant parents.” (Kohli).
The Namesake is a Novel that talks about a girl named Ashima Ganguli who’s from Calcutta and her husband. They got married and moved to America. She gives birth to a son in and she and her husband Ashoke decided to name him Gogol after Ashokes favourite Author Nikolai Gogol. Ashoke was in a train crash which nearly took his life. During this train ride he was reading Nikolais' book. The novel goes on and the novel mostly follows Gogol's life while he grows up. Ashima and Ashoke have a daughter named Sonia. In the novel Gogol struggles a lot with his identity and wishes to fit in more as an American child. Ashoke gives Gogol the book written by Nikolai Gogol but doesn’t explain why he gave it to him. Gogol puts away the book and forgets about it. Later when Gogol moves to Yale for college, he officially changes his name to Nikhil. Ashoke died from a heart attack and Ashima and Sonia lived in Boston and Nikhil created a life in New York. Nikhil comes back to his childhood home to celebrate a holiday and finds the book Ashoke had given him. Ashima spends her time in both Boston and Calcutta and Sonia stays in Boston with her husband Ben. The novel ends with Nikhil promising to read the book, given from his father.
A quote that shows us that they might feel guilt for not fitting in is, “They would have felt lonely in this setting, remarking that they were the only Indians.” (Lahiri 155).
Both The Namesake and the TED talk “Why children of immigrants experience guilt” by Sahaj Kaur Kohli, talks about children and their experiences with growing up in a country that they are not from. That is what Gogol goes through in the novel. He grows up feeling guilty for not fitting into the American standards.
My question is: Do you think there are any American standards that are impossible for immigrants to live up to?
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