It is natural for humans to have needs and wants. It gives us purpose in life. More than that, it’s a glimpse into a person’s character. For the longest time, I coveted a Harry Potter Lego set—specifically the 6020-piece Lego puzzle of the Hogwarts castle. Finishing the book series just months before, it was the sole object of my desire for every Christmas; the item I had placed at the top of my Christmas list, written in pink glitter pen to differentiate from the rest.
Suffice to say, I did not get it.
Contrary to what my ten-year-old self had thought, it wasn’t because my parents were “mean”. Rather, they saw how little I had used my other Lego set (exactly once), and thought it wise not to spend almost five hundred dollars on a gift I may play with once and then discard. In many ways, I’m glad they did.
If I had gotten it, I wouldn’t have learned the full value of money. Maybe the one time I actually played with it, I would have had the best time of my life. But the toy would inevitably end up coated in dust, sitting in the attic long after I became an adult. It would be a forgotten memory.
If I had gotten it, I would’ve been conditioned to constantly expect things to go my way, expect to get everything I want. In the end, reality would only come crashing down harder on that version of myself.
Wanting that Lego set differentiates ten-year-old me from my (slightly) now more mature teenage self. The gift has long disappeared from the top of my Christmas list, along with the other juvenile knick-knacks I used to ask Santa for. While I still have needs and wants, they’ve become less materialistic (unless it’s Taylor Swift, that’s a different story). In a way, this aligns with what Jason Reynolds is alluding to in his story, The Ingredients. Because wants are so innate in human nature, they represent the unattainable abstract truth of life—the concept of scarcity. There are unlimited wants and needs, but limited resources to acquire them. At the same time, wants are what drive to accomplish their goals, to grow and mature, and to dream big.