Where are you seeing characters struggle to deal with expectations in your story? How do they deal with the expectations that are being put on them? Who is putting expectations on them?
In the Ted Talk “Grammar, Identity, and the Dark Side of the Subjunctive” Phuc Tran talks about how different languages can make a big barrier between two people because some languages like Vietnamese which is where his family is originally from. He talks about the struggles of talking with his father. This is a struggle because Vietnamese doesn't have “what if” or “would have,” so when talking to his father he had to be careful how he said things because if he didnt there would be a miscommunication. He talks about us having patience with either: people who are learning a now language, or someone that only knows one language because there are language barriers.
In this quote from the Ted Talk, he has decided that he is no longer happy with his major and wants to change it;“I sat down With my dad that December to tell him that I didn't want to major in art in English anymore as I awaited some reprimand from him.. my father was completely calm, without a hint of disappointment... There was no ‘you should’ speech from him… Instead this is what he said:” you don't want to major in art in English anymore. That's fine, don't study what you don't like, what do you like? study that.” (Tran). This quote works for the connecting point between the video and my book; because when he is sitting down with his dad and as he awaited a lecture from his father, he realized his father was calm and all he said was if you don't want to do that then don't do what makes you happy.
In the novel “My Father, the Panda Killer.” by (Jamie Jo Hoang) it splits the story between Jane and her father, Phuc. Jane lives with her little brother Paul, and her father Phuc who is an escaped immigrant. Jane is 17 and wants to go to college but is terrified to ask her father for permission to go. She is afraid of being beaten for wanting to leave and not work at the store like her father. She is also afraid of her brother hating her for leaving like their mother. When Phuc was young he had to try to escape his hometown to get to America; but fails the first time and lands up getting an older man killed because of his arrogance. The second time he succeeds and gets out of his home town. Jane finally spills about being accepted to college at dinner when her fathers company was visiting. The lady was questioning her if she would like to go to college or if she's undecided; when this happened she couldn't take the pressure and just yelled out that she'd been accepted. Her father to her surprise just said okay and nothing more.
In this quote from “My Father the Panda Killer.” by Jamie Jo Hoang She was sitting at the table with her father and his friends when the lady asked her about college and her reaction was ““The assumption that I'm not smart enough to get into college that cost me to blurt out, ‘“I got into UCLA.’”... instantly, I regret saying this-for multiple reasons. ‘“ The Orientation is August. August 17th, is that okay?’” I asked, turn into my dad. ‘“Okay.’” Okay? I'll find out if you really mean it later. “ brother, he was such a high achieving daughter and all by yourself. Cheers,” But my dad always jokes. " If this works, it could be good for both of our families. " … " but we never know, right? maybe she'll fail all of her classes.””(Hoang 93). This also shows the connection between the video and my book because she is expecting her father to freak out but all he lands up saying is “okay” and that was it.
Both talk about having parental expectations impact their decisions. Neither people get the response from the parent that they were expecting.
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